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Post by divinelighte on Apr 21, 2009 19:47:58 GMT -5
A popular current drama in Taiwan called "败犬女王(Defeated Queen)" tells a story of with a younger 25 year old male falling in love with a significantly older female age 33 . And in the fallowing scene: After being made fun of by her fellow colleges, Mu Shan(the female) invites Ka See(the male) to spend a Christmas night with her at her apartment because she didn't want to feel lonely.And as the sparks filled the air.... after Mu Shan discovers Ka See's real age, sexy time quickly ends and she kicks him out of her apartment.Another event like above occurred in the korean manga "Unbalance x Unbalance" where a younger male student falls in love with a older school teacher but is rejected by the her. 
the above scene shows them(teacher and student) both getting drunk and not remembering what happened last night! XD (excellent manga BTW)How come it is so wrong to like someone that is significantly older  Whats your take on this?? -Divine p.s. Korean Mangas reads from left to right Sources:Defeated Queen: www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=62431174166C68E1Unbalance X Unbalance: www.onemanga.com/Unbalance_x_Unbalance/ |
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Post by zekana on Apr 21, 2009 21:07:07 GMT -5
25 and 33? thats only an 8 year difference. its not that big of a deal really. i know people who have a 20 year age difference and they are just fine with one another.
now the student and teacher one, that could be more of the teacher is just afriad of losing her job.
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Post by Nek™ on Apr 26, 2009 8:18:24 GMT -5
This came up in chat before so I'll say what I said then. Age doesn't matter once both parties are 18+
Example: Take a 28 year old guy dating a 20 year old girl, minus 10 years to both, and you got an 18 year old dating a 10 year old.
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Post by Raccoonboi on Apr 26, 2009 11:50:50 GMT -5
Well in my opinion two lovers at a different age wouldn't really matter to me unless.. They are both at state of maturity level, They can understand each other, They care for each other as if they were near in age. You can't really break true love..
But, for things like sexual contact or interaction I would say do that when both of them are 18 and above...
I should those dramas and Manga out.
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Post by killerteddie on Apr 28, 2009 21:51:58 GMT -5
to me its messed up
but when you get older its not as bad
but when your young like 13 date 18?? umm theres something wrong there
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Post by AznSenzation on Apr 28, 2009 23:10:53 GMT -5
Age is just a number, and as long as it is not a drastic difference, say 15 dating a 30 year old because that's where people start to think it's really really wierd.
Where in the Bible does it say you can't marry/date someone much younger or older then you? Nowhere
Where in the Amendments and laws does it state you are not allowed to date/marry someone much younger or older? Nowhere.
Then it just comes down to the opinion of society. Maybe people think it's wrong to date/marry other people in different age group because they don't know anything about being in that age, or they're just used to liking other people in their age group.
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Post by zekana on Apr 28, 2009 23:28:58 GMT -5
like others said before, once your over the 18 year mark you really should be allowed to date whoever you want regardless of age or sex or whatever.
id like to say though that if a 30 year old is dating a 15 year old, that is just plain wrong.
however, if a 33 year old were to be dating an 18 year old, then there is no problem for both parties are consenting and both are legally alowed to do so so there is no harm.
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Post by zekana on Apr 28, 2009 23:37:54 GMT -5
im ok with it to a point but still like stated it is illegal. i mean if the couple are ok with it then thats all that matter though if one is not mentally fit then there is cause for concern.
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Post by AznSenzation on Apr 29, 2009 0:33:14 GMT -5
Then it just leads back to society where people think it's just plain wrong, where in essence, even though it really does seem weird, it should be okay the people with big age differences date.. including 15 and 30 (maybe)
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Post by Darknezz on Apr 29, 2009 1:10:50 GMT -5
Where in the Bible does it say you can't marry/date someone much younger or older then you? Nowhere Really, dude? The bible? When the fu ck is that ever a valid argument? Really, I'd like to know one time when the bible is a valid response to anything. You do realize that literally every state in this country has a legal age, right? Where it becomes legal for them to have sexual relations? Yeah. That stops people from marrying those under 16 without parental consent. 18 in some states. Which is exactly what this thread is about. |
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Post by Nek™ on Apr 29, 2009 9:17:27 GMT -5
We have some pretty fucked up laws.
Statutory rape? That's fucked up.
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Post by shilohdegreat on Apr 29, 2009 10:12:19 GMT -5
Harold not Harry, just wanted to clear that up since it's a good movie and people need to see it. As for age, I would say it only matters up until both are at or older than 18. By that time, you've got around 90% of who you are set down. Everyone changes when they're younger, a 16 year old won't be the same when they're 20 (at least hopefully). Maturity means a whole lot in a relationship. It decides how well you handle fights, how quickly you get over it and move on, how you interpret actions, et cetera. Even if there are exceptions, like if a 16 year old is very mature for their age, they are not fully developed yet, and they will be different when they're 18. Other than that, I don't see age difference being that important. |
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Post by guesswork on Apr 29, 2009 10:55:14 GMT -5
Where in the Bible does it say you can't marry/date someone much younger or older then you? Nowhere Where in the Amendments and laws does it state you are not allowed to date/marry someone much younger or older? Nowhere. The first one is irrelevant. That's like looking for the legal drinking/driving age in the Bible. Way younger or older for marriage? No, it can't be found. But if you are talking about legal age, then yes. I believe they are under each state's Family Code. Legality and acceptance are two different things. The age gap is for the ones dating to deal with. If they are okay with it, then I say let them be. But when it comes to sex and marriage, the law is the law. In Unbalance^2, you have to take into acccount that a huge part of awkwardness is not just age gap, but teacher/student relationships which is a different taboo altogether. |
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Post by mrfabulous on Apr 29, 2009 11:00:33 GMT -5
I honestly believe that nothing is morally wrong. We as human beings change our perceptions and views as time goes on, but the atural order of things shows that nothing is right or wrong - only what we perceive.
That being said, physically, emotionally, and politically, there are issues with an age difference - sexual intercourse, relations, etc. - but there is nothing morally wrong to love a man or woman much older or younger than you.
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Post by WeWantFun on Apr 29, 2009 20:22:13 GMT -5
people who are legal, and have an age difference of about 8 years is fine
but if you have a 20 year old guy in love with a 15 year old girl, its not right (i know its 5 years)
in fact my sister is 20 years old, shes dating a guy who is 28, thats 8 years. Yea my parents were pissed, but they learned to accept it, its love
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